Benjamin Zulu's Valentine's Day advice to Kenyan men: Priority should be love not gifts

According to Zulu, the problem is not with Valentine’s Day but with the value one puts on their relationship.

Zulu said that because Valentine’s is a day of love, the priority should be to communicate the message of love.

The Life coach also said that people who love each other, give freely to one another, adding that money should not be a matter of discussion.

“The problem is not the day, the problem is the kind of relationship you have with this person, how much you value them…as long as on that day people are talking about love, I will tell the one I love that you matter to me, I want you to know you’re the one, that message is enough…so people should not complain about money…love is shown by lavishly giving, if you’re struggling to give, you’re struggling to love…people who love me, if you tell me genuinely on a text I will fell it even if you did not bring flowers,” Zulu said while speaking on Citizen Tv, Rauka show, Sunday. 

The psychologist went on to say that even though most ladies in relationships expect to receive gifts on this day of love, mature ladies show love in their own way.

He revealed that both the man and woman should reciprocate appreciation for the relationship to become mutually satisfying.

 “Sometimes ladies expect to be given, mature ladies read Proverbs 31. They have their own ways of showing they appreciate you, so if you’re trying to show me and I’m trying to show you we meet in the middle and it will be mutually satisfying,” he said.

He further advised men to stop using the ‘men’s conference’ facade to escape from their relationship obligations.

“Stop using this conference thing as if it’s a joke and you’re planting escapism in men and portraying us men as runners and we hate love, no need to get a woman if you’re not ready to love stay alone," said Zulu.