Mother recounts devastation after losing twins in a span of 3 years

She remembers her children daily and continues to keep their memories alive. 

Now, Stella shares the memories and her struggle with grief on her social media platforms especially TikTok, where she has gained quite a huge number of followers.

“The death of my children is like a knife blade in my heart, and it does not go away. I remember very well dreaming that I would give birth to Twins, I think it was more of manifestation of my desire and I prayed about it and sure enough I got twins,” she told Citizen Digital. 

One of her twins became ill and was treated for pneumonia, and diagnosed with Tuberculosis. The multiple trips to the hospital and the overwhelming hospital bill did not slow them from getting the best available treatment for her son, she and her husband were willing to do everything to ensure their son is healthy.

“I remember my son asking me where we will get the money for his treatment. He was scared that we might exhaust our funds and his siblings would be left with nothing, by then we had spent over 1 million shillings. I told him we were going to sell everything and he asked us to let him be, he did not want us to sell our properties because of his illness,” she said.

The boy lost the battle in 2019. 

They say lightning does not strike the same place twice, but, death hit her home again for the second time. Soon after she had buried her son, the other twin became suddenly ill, was rushed to hospital where he was admitted.

“The doctors told us that our son had a heart attack and they had managed to stabilise him. We transferred him to Kenyatta hospital where we were informed that our child had a 10 percent chance of living through the illness,” she recalls the events that led to her other son’s death in 2022. 

While parents’ lives are irreversibly changed by the loss of their children, this is the highest form of devastation and heartbreak a parent can experience.  However, the loss of a child is so rarely discussed in society today and is considered taboo.

“I watched as doctors tried to resuscitate my son back to life. Watching my son lie there lifeless, was the highest form of devastation I have ever experienced.   People talked, some told me I should leave my husband, others said we had sacrificed my children while others said that my sons were bewitched. One person asked me why my children died and yet I was a prayerful woman implying that God did not love me,” she said. 

For Stella, sharing her grief on social media helps her deal with the loss of her boys, who died aged 15 and 18 respectively.