Xtian Dela bashed for post about his wife going back to work 4 days after giving birth
Social media influencer and aspiring politician Arthur Mandela, popularly known as Xtian Dela thumped his chest on Wednesday, describing his wife as the strongest person ever, apparently because she only took four days to go back to work after giving birth.
"Get yourself a wife who will give birth on Thursday, and go to work on Monday like nothing ever happened," Dela captioned a photo of his wife on Instagram, sounding very pleased with himself.
Almost immediately, Kenyan women, and really, women and men from across the continent trooped to his comment section, pointing out that he did not appear to have the foggiest idea of how giving birth, and post-partum recovery work.
"I dont think thats the flex you think it is," Waithakalucie started off the bash train.
While Azrahrunji was quick to point out that Fatma Banj's body was yet to go back to normal, especially after carring a pregnancy to term.
"This is not something to be proud of. The body takes time to heal even just the organs going back to their respective places after being pushed for nine months," Runji commented
"This is a good backpain waiting in the future. This is how people lose their life in the name of "strong". Go rest gal. You carried a human from the inside,"
Dela and Banj welcomed their first child together, about a week ago. For context.
The post, in which his wife leans on a door frame, decked in a thigh-high white slip-on, got over 33,939 likes by Thursday morning, and more than 1,200 comments. And counting.
"Mtu arudi kazi kwa pace yake. Tuwache kuwekea watu pressure over nothing." Annexis Muriu wrote.
Most users were quick to point out that while it is okay to look sexy after childbirth, going back to work immediately is not.
"Some men here will now think kuzaa ni kama kutema beans from the mouth, n pressurize their woman to work too much after child birth....it's okay to be sexy after giving birth, it's NOT OKAY to work just after child birth," Jnevyll said on IG.
"That's unnecessary pressure to women... Ladies take your time, you just brought life into the world , it's no joke," Iam_eye_v_ commented.
"Three months later I look like a mad woman...where is she getting the energy from?" Wanjiru Wairimu posed.
In a folllow-up post on his Instagram stories, Dela claimed that the flak from form the post was just hate, because he is doing something right.
"If you are not getting hated on, you are not doing sh** right," read the caption of a motivational video that he shared
And as if the local bashing was not enough, Dela's post went international, getting picked by tabloid Onsite.
"Chile, they tore this man up in the comments after this post he made about his woman who recently gave birth," Onsite captioned screeshots from Dela's page.
"Chew him up, yall, this is not a flex ," user stuckinherways, commented, urging the bash-train on.
And when the train went international, you can bet it was no holds barred.
"Free her from the shackles of being a 'strong black woman' ", el_cassandre commented.
"A short white dress? Bold Choice," Mila Monsta wrote.
"Get you a man that wouldn't let you got to work four days after birthing his child," _raemonroe said.
A majority of comments seemed to point out that the trend of celebrities making child birth look easy was totally skewed.
"I feel for her, but hey, it is their relationship," Chocolate brown wrote.